IN-PERSON IN EAGLE ROCK & ONLINE ACROSS CA
This gets to be your life again.
Therapy for Divorce & Separation in Eagle Rock, Los Angeles
You’ve spent so long questioning yourself, you’re not even sure what you know anymore.
Maybe you’ve been thinking about leaving for months—or years. One day you’re certain you can’t keep doing this. The next, you’re wondering if you’re overreacting, expecting too much, or about to blow up your entire life over something you should be able to fix.
Or maybe the relationship is already ending, and now you’re staring at a life you didn’t expect to be living.
Maybe you know the feeling of…
Practicing what you want to say before bringing something up because you already know how easily the conversation can get turned around on you.
Finally getting angry about the way you’ve been treated—and then feeling guilty for being angry.
Trying to remember who you were before so much of your life became about being someone’s partner.
Questioning whether something was really that bad because there were plenty of good moments, too.
Thinking about dating again and immediately deciding you’d rather move to a cabin in the woods.
Wanting someone to tell you what the “right” decision is because you’re not sure you trust yourself to make it anymore.
Finally starting to feel like yourself again, until one interaction with your co-parent pulls you right back into the dynamic you worked so hard to leave.
When you’ve spent enough time having your feelings questioned, dismissed, or turned back on you, trusting your own version of events can get complicated. And figuring out what you want next can feel even harder.
My Approach
You’ve questioned yourself enough.
You don’t need me to tell you how you’re supposed to feel about your relationship or what you should do next.
We’ll make room for your version of what happened, without judgment, and start sorting through what it’s left you believing about yourself.
1. Make sense of what happened.
We’ll look honestly at your relationship and your experience of it. If there was gaslighting, chronic invalidation, emotional abuse, or coercive control, we can put language around those experiences and help you understand dynamics that maybe have been really confusing while you were living inside them.
2. Untangle what happened from who you are.
Maybe you’ve walked away believing you’re too needy, too sensitive, impossible to love, or incapable of making good decisions. If you have ADHD or AuDHD, years of feeling misunderstood may have made some of those messages even harder to shake. We’ll look at the shame, self-blame, and beliefs you’ve picked up along the way, and start separating someone else’s version of you from what you actually know about yourself.
3. Get reacquainted with yourself.
After years of making decisions as part of a “we,” figuring out what you want can feel surprisingly complicated. We’ll work on rebuilding trust in your instincts, setting boundaries that protect your well-being, and getting clearer about what you want your relationships—and your life—to look like from here.
You’ve probably heard enough opinions about who you are and what you should do. Now, yours get to matter again.
Divorce therapy can help you…
Believe you can handle your own life…even if you haven’t had to do it on your own in a very long time.
Stop automatically assuming you were the problem…every time you look back at what happened.
Set a boundary…without writing a five-paragraph defense of why you’re allowed to have one.
Recognize the red flags you used to explain away…and get clearer about what healthy actually looks like to you.
Deal with a difficult ex…without letting every interaction ruin the rest of your day.
Believe you’re worthy of love without having to earn it…by being easier, prettier, quieter, more accommodating, or anything else.
IN-PERSON & ONLINE THERAPY FOR DIVORCE IN LOS ANGELES, CA
You were always complete. Now you get to rediscover all your beautiful parts.
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Questions?
FAQs
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Not at all. You can come to therapy when you’re firmly decided, completely unsure, or changing your mind every other Tuesday.
You don’t need to make a case for staying or leaving, and I’m not here to make that decision for you. Therapy can give you space to sort through what you’re feeling and get clearer about what you want.
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Yes. When you’re in the middle of a relationship, it can be hard to separate what you actually want from fear, guilt, other people’s opinions, or the sheer enormity of changing your life.
Therapy can give you a place to think out loud, understand your experience, and get clearer about what feels right for you—without someone else handing you a verdict.
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Ending a relationship doesn’t automatically erase the way you learned to see yourself inside it. If your feelings, perceptions, or decisions were regularly questioned or dismissed, that doubt can stick around long after the relationship ends.
It can take time to hear your own voice clearly again and to believe it when you do.
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That makes sense if you’ve spent years—or most of your adult life—thinking in terms of “we.” Your routines, relationships, plans, and even your idea of the future may have been built around being part of a couple.
You don’t need to immediately know who “newly single you” is supposed to be. You get to find out.
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Absolutely. Knowing a relationship wasn’t healthy doesn’t mean there was nothing good in it—or that you won’t miss the person, the life you shared, the future you imagined, or even the version of the relationship you kept hoping it would become.
You can know leaving was right for you and still be heartbroken that it had to end.
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My background as a Marriage and Family Therapist gives me a deep understanding of relationship and family dynamics, while my training in attachment-focused, relational, psychodynamic, and trauma-focused approaches helps me support women through the emotional fallout that can come with ending a relationship.
I’m also a certified Domestic Violence Advocate and have experience working with women who have been in emotionally abusive or controlling relationships. I understand how these dynamics can leave you questioning your own perceptions, decisions, and sense of self—even after the relationship has ended.
My goal isn’t to tell you what you should have done or what you should do next. I want to help you make sense of your experience, reconnect with your own voice, and feel more confident trusting yourself again.